Accepting

Accept. If more people accepted themselves and owned up to their inner self, less people would be so afraid to do what they truly are destined to do and be.

This past week I spent it at home and as always it’s wonderful to be with family and friends, but it’s also so sad to notice when they are struggling or hurting deep inside. When it’s your really close family members/ friends and you know how they are when they are well it’s difficult to see them when they aren’t at their highest. People are always going through something. We are always fighting some battle. There is always an obstacle in front of us, a challenge to take on. And it takes a lot on the inside to overcome those battles and not stay uplifted on the inside. What I’m really stressing is that the best solution you can take is to accept yourself. Accept those underlying feelings, those far out thoughts. Accept that intuition of yours, that determination and remind yourself that it will be worth it. Because if you are concerned that no one will agree with you, believe in you, trust in you or still care about you– know that when  you are the most honest version of yourself you are most open and agreeable to others.

There’s this undeniable tension I felt that I wish so many people I care for weren’t facing and it’s a constant struggle that all walks of people face. If you want to admit that you like him– do it! I think he’s a great person so, don’t be afraid how others will judge you. If you want to move out– send out those applications and when those acceptances come your way, because believe me they will– take the offer! If you feel compelled to move out, you must really listen to that part of you and fulfill your desires. If you want to be happier– take care of yourself first. By taking care of your health and appearance it will inadvertently effect the way others treat you and by way create more happiness in your life. If you want to dance on stage at the club– just ask, because I’m so glad I did.

I was told by a good friend this week that they choose to live their life accepting everything that comes their way. I am convinced in order to do so, you must accept yourself first. And I think that’s exactly how in a sense they saved them self. To all my friends and family drowning in their minds know that I will still believe in you and will accept you.

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The Power of Freedom

I am currently working on a long form video project for one of my final broadcast journalism courses at  BU. And it’s becoming more than just a class assignment. I am so driven to do every little bit that I can to help bring this story into American perspective and emphasize the huge issue at hand. If violence and protests that result in deaths and unjust imprisonments are not enough to garner attention, understanding the Latin American country of Venezuela and its neighbors which lie so closely to the U.S. should help to see the flashing SOS signals in this country.

Below please read a passionate post by classmate Dany Vazquez and her cry for freedom:

The Meaning of Freedom.

Throughout the next month I’ll be posting links, photos and videos from journalists, experts and people being affected by the tragedy in Venezuela as well as my own work.

Hundreds protested against the violence in Venezuela on February 22 at Copley Square in Boston, MA. This is a still from one of my many video clips from that afternoon.

Hundreds protested against the violence in Venezuela on February 22 at Copley Square in Boston, MA./ MELISSA ADAN

#SOSVenezuela

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February’s Strength

Andy Valentine's Day 2012Around this point three years ago, there were talks about you leaving the hospital. I was anxious. Valentine’s Day rolled around and I remember your mom later telling me how all these girls went to see you and shower you with gifts and rapidly repeat to you “I love you’s.” I remember how I didn’t visit on Valentine’s Day. It was a hard day, trying to face the fact that had it been another way we’d probably be spending that day together. But, that was weird for me to accept. I just kept focusing on the larger goal: your benefit concert, your upcoming release date and you being back home. I am still weary over the day. Yet this time of the year always reminds me of the best thing about you. February has always been your month of strength. You’ve overcome so much in the course of your life within February’s that being released from the hospital you were admitted to after 2 and a half months in a coma- was just a part of your Valentine month strength. Going up on stage a few days later at your benefit concert and thanking everyone for their support- that was powerful. Your mom and I joked that when you grabbed the microphone from me you would make a joke or say something incoherent. She actually had coached me before going onstage to prevent you from taking the mic. However, what you did was outstanding. How could we ever doubt you? Fast forward next February and we celebrated your first year out and called it “Andy’s 1 year ‘outside!'” We hosted a picnic and enjoyed being literally outside. By your second year I was gone. Now for your third year I need you to know that every February you’re not just in my mind. But you are fueling me with strength. You give me the strength and courage I seek for daily. You remind me what it is to fall to the ground and force yourself back up. Your strength doesn’t go by in vain, your strength is my example. Every February, I can’t help but think what could have been. But then I realize all that you have given me, and how could I ever ask for more?

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23 Things to do before— There is no such list

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South Florida sunset

That’s all. There is no such list. Life has no list. Have kids, get married, graduate from multiple universities or eat Nutella. Life shouldn’t be judged and can’t be, because there is no specific path to success or happiness. And one common goal people have is to live a happy life. Whether society deems you foolish for having children at a young age or ridiculous for incurring debt to attend a prestigious university– if you are happy, then you are successfully adhering to your own list and THAT is the important list you should follow.

I’ve read the several posts on what 20 somethings are telling each other what we should be aiming for. And I like their messages, it works. Works for them and any others who can relate with the message and see their passion and beliefs. But coming from a gal who is far from being engaged and can’t bake a cake, who is to say getting engaged before 23 is a bad thing? It sounds like much more courage than cutting your hair. And really? Crawl from under a rock if I can’t bake a cake? I’m 21 and have never baked a cake and will probably make it to 23 without having baked a cake, but no worries I am a proud woman. Note: I also appreciate the blogs that are writing moderately on these sides. But I don’t believe it’s about being single or married or in love or anti it that make up these posts. It’s only about you and your own so-called “list.”

Because the way I see things:

Young mothers, they are beautiful they are working hard each and every day to provide for their children and they teach me that I too want to be a considerate and loving mother no matter what the age.

People getting degrees left and right, they make me want to continue striving for degrees and higher education achievements. Their knowledge impresses me, it shouldn’t intimidate.

My friends with jobs working until disturbing hours and accomplishing great feats, they really make me yearn to hustle as hard as they do.

20 somethings getting married and in love, guess what, they don’t make me cringe and be bitter, they remind this single girl that love is real. And that makes me happy.

For those traveling during their young years, I love seeing how you appreciate the world and are taking in places through their culture- not just their tourist highlight spots.

To the ones who continue in their faith despite what society says is popular- I believe in you. Your strong faith is an example to SO many young people to not give up. I strive to find strong faith.

These examples are endless, because people are a little bit of everything. They work, party, fall in and out of love, believe, study and try. People try. And that is the general message floating around the internet- people (YOUNG people) are trying to live their life their own way. Not in some way we are supposed to. And THAT is what makes this generation of millennials so incredible.

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Hoping your New Year’s Resolution has meaning

Happy New Year. I hope everyone rang in 2014 as pleasantly as possible. I saw some pretty cool pictures on social media over the past few days of different New Year’s traditions on how to celebrate the ending of one year to the next. From luggages to bonfires and grapes, I’d like to share my little tradition. For the past five years my best friend Danielle and I have written down an endless list of goals and wishes for the year, shoved them into a lime green Spacemaker pencil box, sealed the box tight with tape and thrown them to the back of her closet to wait until the following year to open. What started as a cool thing to do over a January meal has become our little tradition. What’s special about this is reading what your wrote down for yourself a year later and evaluating whether it came true, failed, was a silly wish or somehow it’s almost like you subconsciously predicted a year before what would happen to you. This year, Dani and I met at GreenStreet for breakfast. We looked back at 2013’s earlier goals and noticed that we both asked for a lot and wished for so much. We both shared to one another how the first half of our 2013 was rough, yet the year had a magical way of skyrocketing halfway through and providing us with an amazing ending. As we wrote our goals & wishes for 2014 we limited our list to 25 and within this we both included goals for ourselves, sisters, family and friends. From getting hired as a TV reporter to finding mental peace, my list for 2014 definitely shows growth. Suddenly, weighing a certain number and having a specific GPA is not relevant, at all.

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That’s a snapshot of me taken by my best friend at GreenStreet. Breakfast there is so great– highly recommended for food, drinks and atmosphere.

And now as 2014 is underway, I am glad Dani and I took a couple of hours to reflect on our year and not just ask for more, but be grateful for the abundance of blessings we receive and continue to. I hope that 2014 allows us both to contribute as much positivity as possible to those around us. With that, if you have not taken a second yet to reflect on 2013 do so and then remind yourself that there is a whole year waiting just for you. Godspeed 2014.

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January 5, 2014 · 2:28 am

En Paz Descanse

Following up on my last post, Find Your Purpose. I was inspired to write that evening after I visited my godmother’s mom who was admitted to the hospital. She sadly passed away yesterday morning.

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A beautiful photo of Margarita on Christmas Eve taken by her grandson. Rest in peace.

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Find Your Purpose

Every now and then I flat out wonder and ask myself: what’s the purpose… Why study so hard? Why get so fixated on one goal? What is the overall objective? And if it sounds like I may go off on a rant about the meaning of life– just hear me out for a second. I truly believe people are brought to this world with some grand purpose or mission they are to achieve. Whether it happens unnoticeably or it is the center point of one’s life, there is a purpose. I don’t know if you are supposed to figure out your purpose or not, if it is something that can just happen or doesn’t exist. As I am in my early 20’s I occasionally convince myself that I can find the answer to the meaning of life and at the same time laugh at the thought and know I won’t solve anything except maybe a hangover.

Today, I visited a family friend at the hospital and saw the way this elderly man cared for his very ill wife. It was incredible the love this man had in every look he gave her, in the way he fluffed her pillows and would gently stroke her hair out of her face. Unfortunately, his wife fell very ill a few years ago and more recently things have worsened. But yet, this man stood as if the center of his universe is this woman laying helplessly in a bright white hospital bed. For me I saw that his “purpose” had been to be a grand husband. And wow, nothing took my breath away more than to think how successful this man has been in fulfilling that purpose. As he paced around the hospital room one last time before leaving her, his gaze never left her eyes, even if at the moment her eyes were dull and expressionless. After he stroked her face and told her a couple of jokes he kissed her good night and left. Yet, even after he walked out the door I still felt the love he had showered her sitting in the room’s temperature. My eyes glazed over and in those moments, it’s almost impossible not to question what purpose we have. 

I find that when you are a witness to high level emotional moments, it can bring you a sense of clarity. Since moving away, I have discovered a greater sense of purpose I wish to have in my life. And whenever I come home I easily see how these big ideas and dreams can so simply stay just fantasies and thoughts. Yet, there are these moments in life that remind me what is truly important to me or what at least for the moment beats in tune with my heart and ticks at the same rhythm as my mind. That’s when I go for it. As 2014 approaches I see my journey in Boston coming to an end and a new one beginning. It would be so simple for me to come back home and call it a nice adventure, but my heart and my mind are telling me my adventure has only just begun.

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